Buckle Up... Your Place In Life Is In The Driver's Seat
Ask yourself, are you in the driver's seat or just a passenger in your life? In order to live a fulfilling life, you need to be in the driver's seat.
Happy New Week Everyone!
I saw this tweet last week that resonated deeply with me.
When I was 20, life made me extremely aware that death is inevitable. This filled me with an insane sense of urgency and drive. I stopped waiting to be at a certain age or stage in life to follow my dreams, I decided to start where I am and with what I have. Steve Jobs said “remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
One thing I’ve noticed is that most people are passive with life and just let life happen to them rather than take control of life and create a life to be proud of. Passive behaviour is often why you feel stuck at work or in other areas of your life. When you’re unhappy with your situation the only active thing you do is complain.
Passive behaviour usually comes from:
Lack of motivation - when you don’t have the drive to get out and make things happen, you don’t act, you just react.
Lack of goals - if you don't have any meaningful goals that you are striving towards, you just accept whatever comes to you as you don’t know what you want.
Fear - most people are afraid of stepping out of their common zone due to fear of change, fear of success, fear of judgement, or fear of failure.
3 ways to stop being passive:
Start by increasing your self-belief. The most important confidence is inner confidence. Understand that whatever happens to you, you will be fine and you have the power within to solve your problems. The best way to build inner confidence is by facing your fears head-on. You will notice that what scares you is not as bad as you think.
Be more intentional. When you decide to start taking more intentional action and responsibility for your life, something beautiful starts to happen. You have to know what type of life you want, make decisions and take action towards achieving that life. Move from reactive thinking to proactive thinking and take things a day at a time with the big picture in mind.
Learn to be assertive. Start demanding things from yourself, life, relationships, etc. Don’t just accept things the way they are. Express yourself when appropriate, set boundaries, and practice saying no. Being assertive will make you feel more confident and in control of your life.
Please don’t let life pass you by, life is not a spectator sport, if you want to win, you have to get in the game. The most important thing is to take action in life. There is never a perfect moment, just take the first step and everything will work out how it’s supposed to.